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Spiritual Development in Children and Raising a Godly Family

Spiritual Development in Children and Raising a Godly Family

Plano Christian Counseling2026-04-17T13:07:57+00:00April 17th, 2026|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Featured, Spiritual Development|

As parents, we are familiar with developmental physical and social milestones as a way of assessing our children’s development. If our child does not reach a milestone, we seek advice or assistance to be sure they do not fall behind. However, spiritual development is not commonly discussed, so here is a brief overview of a child’s stages of spiritual development. Birth to 3 years old A baby’s focus is their own comfort. Their entire existence is rooted in self-preservation and complete reliance on another. They cry when they are tired, hungry, or just uncomfortable. As they are expressing themselves, they are also learning whether their needs will be met or not, and every obstacle creates a new opportunity. Communication develops quickly from one-way to two-way. At first, they just mimic, but in time, they start to understand language, and communications become clearer. Babies experience their world through their senses. Sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste create a sense of safety and comfort or fear and discomfort for babies. It is important for parents when first taking their baby to church to be sure that the church is experienced as safe and comfortable. It helps if a baby hears the same music at home as they do at church, as this will give them a sense of familiarity and comfort. The church nursery is often a child’s first experience and sets the foundation for their pattern of attending church. A church nursery should be inviting with lots of bright colors and toys to play with or look at. The attitude of the church nursery worker is extremely important, as the baby will associate the nursery worker’s attitude with the church. Is the nursery worker overly tired or stressed? Is the nursery worker excited to see your baby and welcoming? Is [...]

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Child Behavioral Therapist: Frequently Asked Questions

Child Behavioral Therapist: Frequently Asked Questions

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2026-03-18T06:14:19+00:00March 18th, 2026|Christian Counseling for Children, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Child behavioral therapists are trained mental health professionals who specialize in helping children deal with emotional and behavioral challenges to learn how to function more effectively. Their overall goal is to strengthen desired behaviors, reduce or eliminate unwanted ones, and improve the child’s overall well-being. They help equip the child with adaptive coping skills that enable them to handle frustration and difficult situations in a healthy manner. How can I tell if my child is going through a phase or needs professional help? It can sometimes be hard to know if your child’s behavior requires professional intervention or if it is just a phase he or she is going through. Almost all young children act out occasionally. Some level of defiance, temper tantrums, and testing of boundaries is a normal part of child development. This is especially true during the toddlerhood stage when children are going through the process of learning to express themselves, gain independence, and assert their wills. More persistent or severe issues, however, such as trouble making or keeping friends, or causing frequent disruptions at school, may require the know-how of a professional. Some red flags that require immediate attention and should not be ignored include sudden, dramatic mood or personality changes; destructive behavior such as breaking things or setting fires; uncontrollable anger over seemingly trivial issues; physical aggression toward others; mistreating animals; self-harm; or acting in ways that are inappropriate for their age. What can a child behavioral therapist do to help? A child behavioral therapist can help improve your child’s unwanted behaviors by: Pinpointing what triggers them and why. Helping him or her identify and modify negative thought patterns. Equipping him or her with the necessary skills to handle frustrating circumstances appropriately. Teaching him or her to manage his or her emotions in healthy [...]

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Avoidance Anxiety in Children: When a Child’s Resistance Isn’t Just a Phase

Avoidance Anxiety in Children: When a Child’s Resistance Isn’t Just a Phase

D. Nicole Ready, Kate Motaung2026-03-17T06:10:19+00:00March 17th, 2026|Anxiety, Christian Counseling for Children, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

If you are the parent of a young child, you’ve probably seen resistance before. Perhaps they’ve started to become reluctant to go to school. With some questions, you learn that it’s not only school that makes them upset. There are changes in the things they enjoy, or you notice things you thought they’d outgrow. Maybe your child refuses to go to a birthday party, has a meltdown before swimming lessons, or suddenly forgets how to do a simple chore they’ve done a hundred times. Your nighttime routine that was working so well isn’t anymore. It is becoming harder and harder for your child to do anything without you by their side. At first, you may brush this off as a bad mood, tantrums, or stubbornness. But if it happens more than a few times, it could be something more. Sometimes, when a child says no to things or avoids something repeatedly, it may be more than them just being stubborn. It could be avoidance anxiety, a type of anxiety when a child feels nervous or unsure about something and tries to stay away from it altogether. Avoiding something might help them feel better in the moment, but it usually makes their worry grow stronger later. This kind of anxiety is harder for parents to understand because it may or may not involve tears or big outbursts. The child simply seems defiant, needy, or unmotivated. Still, it is always worth paying attention to, because the earlier you notice it, the easier it is to help. What is avoidance anxiety in children, and why does it happen? Avoidance anxiety is a way children try to protect themselves. When something feels too scary, confusing or hard, they look for ways to escape and avoid. That could mean pretending to be sick, refusing [...]

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Helping Elementary School Children When the OCD Monster Traps Them

Helping Elementary School Children When the OCD Monster Traps Them

Stephanie Kramer2026-03-12T07:13:41+00:00March 12th, 2026|Christian Counseling for Children, Family Counseling, Featured, OCD|

Imagine your sweet eight-year-old sitting at the kitchen table, staring at their math homework, tears quietly spilling down their cheeks. You notice them frantically erasing and rewriting the same answer over and over, desperate to make it “just right.” They’re not being picky or difficult; they’re stuck in an OCD loop that they don’t even fully understand themselves. As a parent, it is heartbreaking to watch and can leave both you and your child feeling hopeless and frustrated. Therapists see people with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) struggle with OCD loops often. It’s particularly obvious in elementary school-aged children because, at that age, they have not yet learned how to manage their OCD-triggered behaviors. OCD is a tricky monster because it doesn’t always look the way we expect it to look. It’s not just about kids keeping their rooms spotless or washing their hands too often, which are more commonly known signs. Sometimes OCD manifests itself in quieter ways, such as having to sharpen a pencil exactly five times before class or feeling an overwhelming need to re-read the same sentence until it feels “right” to them. These thought and action loops aren’t just quirks; they’re signs that something much deeper is happening inside your child’s head and heart. The good news is that there are ways to help your child succeed even when it feels that OCD is an insurmountable obstacle. You’re not alone, and neither is your child. God sees you and God sees them – every struggle, every tear, and every frustrated eraser mark. He is not asking you to fight this battle alone. He is there with a loving hand, a mountain of grace and guidance. The first step in helping your child with OCD is understanding that their struggles aren’t a reflection of their character. They aren’t being [...]

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How Can Anger Management in Children Be Helped With Counseling?

How Can Anger Management in Children Be Helped With Counseling?

D. Nicole Ready, Kate Motaung2026-03-27T10:05:33+00:00January 13th, 2026|Anger Issues, Christian Counseling for Children, Featured, Individual Counseling|

What are your evenings at home characterized by? Are you exhausted from the anticipation of your child having another bad day at school? Have you tried positive reinforcement, pep talks, consequences, and times out with no luck? Do explosive emotions, angry outbursts, meltdowns, meanness, tantrums, and aggressive behavior characterize the life of your child? The Need for Anger Management in Children These scenarios might lead parents to seek out the help of a counselor for their child and family. Honestly, even as adults, anger can sometimes get the best of us. Anger can quickly overwhelm us and cause destructive patterns of emotional response. The interesting thing about anger is that it is often a secondary emotion, meaning that there are likely other primary feelings that are hiding underneath the display of anger that need to be identified to bring change to the cycle of negative emotions and behavior. Counseling for anger management and other destructive emotional behavior patterns in children will often begin with psychoeducation. Simply put, initial counseling sessions are used to educate the client about a wide array of emotions. For children, this must be done in an environment where they feel safe and seen. Parents need to find a therapist that they feel comfortable with and one that can build relationally with their child. Approaches to Anger Management in Children Once care is established, you can say, “Let the games begin.” There are many games and activities available to help children begin to learn more about what and why they are feeling so much anger and outrage. Approaching therapy this way with children will allow them to avoid feeling like therapy is punitive. Therapy will allow children who are struggling with big emotions to safely explore all feelings. Over time, children will be able to identify [...]

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7 Types of Behavioral Problems in Children

7 Types of Behavioral Problems in Children

Melissa Plantz2025-12-31T06:33:11+00:00December 31st, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Children often react in ways that frustrate their parents. However, when should you be concerned about behavioral problems? When are their actions no longer typical and become an issue? Knowing the common behavioral problems in children can help you navigate this season and ask for support when needed. 7 Common Types of Behavioral Problems in Children Temper tantrums, outbursts, hitting other people, and knocking over things are common behaviors in children with behavioral problems, but so are changes in sleep patterns and appetite, social withdrawal, self-harm, and suicidal ideations. There are several types of behavioral problems in children that are often categorized as disruptive behaviors, neurodevelopmental disorders, or emotional disorders. ADHD Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a disruptive behavior disorder characterized by the inability to focus and concentrate, disorganization, fidgeting, and sometimes impulsive behaviors. Children with ADHD may forget more often or lose homework. They can be impatient at times. Unfortunately, many adults label ADHD children as difficult, which can lead to children fulfilling the adults’ expectations, making their behavior worse. Oppositional Defiant Disorder Children go through rebellious stages, but children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder constantly argue with others, have issues with authority, blame others for their own mistakes, and try to annoy other people. They break the rules and question why they should have to follow them in the first place. They may hit others and say mean things. A child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder may find it hard to make and keep friends unless they learn how to manage their behavioral problems. Autism Spectrum Disorder Autism Spectrum Disorder is a neurodevelopmental disorder. The spectrum runs from mild symptoms to severe. One child with autism may only suffer from social interaction issues and the inability to relate to others and empathize. In contrast, another child may have communication [...]

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Mental Disorders in Children: 6 Signs Your Child May Need Help

Mental Disorders in Children: 6 Signs Your Child May Need Help

Hannah Parks, Kate Motaung2026-03-25T12:51:21+00:00December 9th, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Childhood is a precious time. Children play, make friends, and absorb knowledge in everything they do. It is a moment in a parent’s life that they will look back and wish their children were that age again. But for some, childhood brings the emergence of mental disorders. Many mental conditions display signs in the teenage years or as early as grade school age. Signs That Your Child Might Need Help Kids display signs of mental disorders, although they may be subtle initially. These conditions affect emotional, mental, cognitive, and behavioral health. Not all children complain or can explain that they feel “off.” Academic Problems Slipping grades, fights at school, problems with friends, and defiant behavior toward teachers and authority could be a sign of a mental condition. By eliminating other factors, such as bullying, your doctor can better pinpoint the root of the problem and determine an accurate diagnosis. Behavioral Issues Fighting, hitting, arguing, isolating, and other behavioral issues could indicate that something isn’t right. If your child’s behavior escalates to the point that teachers and authorities need to step in or if your child withdraws from the world, a professional mental health assessment may be due. Appetite Changes Appetite changes can be subtle. You may not notice if your child is eating too little or too much for a while, especially in a busy household. Take note of your child’s appearance. Do they seem to be rapidly gaining or losing weight? Watch them at mealtimes and observe if they are snacking excessively. Childhood and the teenage years are particularly prone to developing eating disorders, which can also coexist with other mental health conditions. Sleep Changes Your child may not express any sleep issues, so you may need to observe their physical appearance and behavior. Many mental disorders can cause [...]

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Social Media and Body Image: Back to School Edition

Social Media and Body Image: Back to School Edition

Melissa Plantz2025-09-08T06:24:27+00:00September 8th, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Back to school is a time when many families are ready for a fresh start. There is so much hope for the future, excitement, and maybe a little bit of anxiety. But for some children, their body image impacts how they will interact with others and pursue their goals. How we perceive our bodies affects how we behave and the beliefs that we hold onto. Social media and body image play critical roles in how a child views themselves. The Effects of Social Media and Body Image on Kids The effects of social media and body image on children can last a lifetime. Children, as young as grade school, begin to notice society’s ideal image of what someone should look like to be pretty, handsome, cool, or successful. They start their quest to fulfill what they believe everyone wants. Comparison Children who spend time on social media may begin to compare their own bodies to those of their peers and celebrities, not understanding how unrealistic many of these images are after being airbrushed and filtered. Body Dysmorphia Body dysmorphia is an excessive worry about how one looks. It is an obsession with perceived flaws. This obsession can interfere with a child’s daily activities and socialization. Eating Disorders Eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia, are fatal if left untreated. They cause severe physical illness. Binge eating is another eating disorder that can develop in some children, especially if they use food as a coping mechanism. Increased Risk for Depression and Anxiety Too much time scrolling social media and worrying about body image can increase depression and anxiety in both adults and children. Parents and educators should stay informed about social media and body image, and be willing to celebrate each child’s uniqueness until that child embraces a positive [...]

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Play Therapy for Children in Plano, Texas

Play Therapy for Children in Plano, Texas

Caitlin Mallery2025-04-25T09:55:02+00:00April 25th, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Family Counseling, Featured|

Therapy takes on a lot of different forms. Talking is the most obvious but not the most accessible for children. Learning to communicate with children is often done better with strategies that involve playing rather than talking. Play therapy for children in Plano, Texas is used by trained therapists in Plano as a way to help children become comfortable with sharing and learn different tools for responding to their stress, trauma, or struggles. When to Use Play Therapy Children who have emotional and behavioral difficulties or have been struggling with depression, anxiety, or aggression can benefit from play therapy. Children who have had developmental delays or learning disabilities benefit from it as well. If you watch children you may notice that they use play as a form of practicing life. When directed this type of play can help children work through things they struggle with in a controlled environment. They can be given coping mechanisms and tools to replicate the solution found in this kind of play on a larger scale. Some Examples Sand play therapy Children use sand, water, and miniature objects to create a world that represents their inner thoughts and feelings. Art therapy Children use art materials such as paints, clay, and markers to express themselves creatively. This can sometimes be done as a conversational tool, “I drew a square. What would you add to make it look like a house?” Music therapy Children can use music to express their emotions. This could use instruments or computer programming to create music. Drama therapy Children use drama and role-playing to explore different situations and learn new ways of interacting with others. Puppet therapy They use puppets to tell stories and express their feelings. Many children may find it easier to communicate in this more indirect manner. Movement [...]

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How to Navigate the Complex Waters of Divorce and Children

How to Navigate the Complex Waters of Divorce and Children

Bryan Ferguson, Kate Motaung2025-03-21T08:19:38+00:00March 13th, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Choosing to share the rest of your life with a person has a profound impact on the rest of your life. When a person gets married, they don’t know exactly what will come their way because life can be unpredictable. Ending a marriage is a big decision, and it can be one of the most painful decisions a person makes in their life. This pain is magnified when divorce and children mix. Dealing With Divorce as an Adult Getting divorced is complicated on several levels. This includes the social, legal, and moral dimensions and implications of the decision. When a person gets divorced, there is a lot they work through to get to that point, but beyond divorce lies other questions, feelings, and thoughts that need to be unpacked. Plano Christian Counseling can help individuals navigate these challenges with faith-based support and guidance. Dealing with a divorce in a healthy way requires several things. Take time to heal Marriage joins two people, two lives, together into one. When a man and woman are joined together in marriage, the two become “one flesh”, and they share life. (Genesis 2:24-25, Matthew 19: 4-6) God’s intention is for people to persist in this state of unity. If that unity is broken through a divorce, it is like tearing off a piece of yourself. Your marriage may have been a difficult one, and divorce opened up new vistas, but you should still take the time to heal. Getting a divorce brings an important part of your life to an end. With that is dealing with the absence and loss of a person to whom you had significant emotional and physical ties. Sometimes, what needs to be mourned is the loss of a dream and of the potential your relationship had. That includes the [...]

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