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Personal Goals You Can Set and Accomplish for Yourself

Personal Goals You Can Set and Accomplish for Yourself

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2026-05-07T13:58:40+00:00May 7th, 2026|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Being able to set goals and get things done helps you achieve the things you want in life. Life can be a long and meandering journey, and you never know where the winds of opportunity will carry you. It’s possible to go through life without pausing to think about what you’re doing and why. Often, however, that results in being dictated to by circumstances and the direction of others who are more intentional. Our lives can unfold in surprising ways, and sometimes we find ourselves in places and circumstances we never dreamed of. Being able to set goals isn’t a substitute for having dreams and being spontaneous. However, it is a way of being more intentional about the resources and opportunities you have. It can help you accomplish a future you desire for yourself. You might be the sort of person who knew what you wanted to be when you were a kid and planned every step of that journey until you accomplished your goal, and that’s generally how you live your life. Or you might be the sort of person who takes things as they come, holding plans loosely. Either way, being able to have and set goals can have its benefits. The Importance of Setting Goals We don’t all approach life in the same way. Some people have a clear path and ideas about what they want to accomplish in life, while others take things as they come, meeting each situation, and then figuring out the next steps. Each approach has its merits, and one can learn from how other people do things. Nonetheless, there are benefits from taking some time to think about what your goals are. When you set goals, it’s one of the ways of setting yourself up for success. The process of setting goals [...]

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The Enneagram and Bipolar Personality Disorder

The Enneagram and Bipolar Personality Disorder

Sarah Harris, Kate Motaung2026-04-28T14:58:39+00:00April 28th, 2026|Bipolar Disorder, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

When an individual deals with personality and mental health struggles, it can feel overwhelming. Those who experience the extreme mood changes of bipolar personality disorder often find it helpful to understand basic personality patterns to see how bipolar personality disorder may express itself in different personality types. One tool that helps us understand personality types is the Enneagram. It is a system that helps explain nine personality types and shows what motivates the individuals of those types. Knowing your personality type can help you be mindful of vulnerabilities and also use your strengths. It can be used to help you self-reflect and grow. Some individuals get confused about what their natural personality is and what a mental health issue is. Understanding the differences is key to getting the right treatment and feeling better in the long term. Knowing who they are naturally and how mental health affects them plays an important role in healing and getting better. God desires for us to be whole and healthy, no matter what we face. The Enneagram and Bipolar Personality Disorder Bipolar personality disorder causes individuals to have heightened mood swings, depending on energy levels. They experience mania during high-energy times and depression during low-energy times. These mood swings can cause chaos in relationships and daily life. Many individuals are affected by bipolar personality disorders. The symptoms are unique for each person. Knowing your Enneagram number might help in understanding how your personality types may cope with or specifically exhibit bipolar symptoms. For each Enneagram type, there are specific fears and wants that can combine with bipolar symptoms in different ways. Here are some examples: A type four’s biggest fear is being ordinary. This fear could worsen during sad times. A type eight’s need to be in control could show up differently during [...]

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Mindfulness Breathing Exercises to Reduce Stress

Mindfulness Breathing Exercises to Reduce Stress

Rhonda Gist, Kate Motaung2026-03-25T06:19:18+00:00March 25th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Professional Development, Spiritual Development|

Stress is part of our daily life and negatively impacts our physical and mental health. Mindfulness breathing is a technique that everyone can learn that reduces the impact of stress. There are many different breathing techniques. "Breathe Deep", Courtesy of Darius Bashar, Unsplash.com, CC0 License; How does mindful breathing help reduce the impact of stress? Breathing is an automatic function that seems simple, and we don’t even have to think about it. However, learning specific breathing exercises, thinking about and managing breathing further expands the benefit of breathing from just keeping us alive to improving our mental and physical health. Mindful breathing can increase the oxygen levels in our brain, lower our blood pressure, improve overall circulation, and calm our nervous system. Our breathing is such a powerful tool for battling stress and anxiety because it connects us to the presence of God. In the Bible, the Greek word “pneuma” is used to signify God’s life-giving power, humanity's mortality, and the Holy Spirit. In Genesis 2:7, it is noted that God formed man and breathed into him the breath of life, and man became a living being. In Job 32:8, it notes there is a spirit in people, the breath of the Almighty within them, that makes them intelligent. Isaiah 42:5 notes that God gives breath to everyone on earth. There are many different breathing exercises, and all are effective, so it’s important to find the one that works best for you or find several in order to keep the variety available for you. Basic Mindful Breathing Get comfortable by sitting or standing and loosening tight clothes. Remove distractions. Turn off the TV and your phone. Close your eyes. Start by just noticing your breath, don’t force it, just be aware of the air coming in and going out [...]

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Understanding the Effects of Stress Inoculation

Understanding the Effects of Stress Inoculation

Hannah Parks, Kate Motaung2026-03-04T07:42:29+00:00March 4th, 2026|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Every day life presents an endless flow of pressures that overwhelm even the strongest people. These pressures are deeper than just difficult circumstances. This results in an impossible balance between maintaining composure while genuinely working through the weight of daily challenges. This creates a disconnect between appearance and inner peace, related to a disconnect between wanting to be strong and feeling vulnerable. It becomes necessary to understand what stress inoculation is and how it is essential to navigate these challenges. Each person experiences struggles differently. What works for one person may not work for another, which may leave countless individuals feeling as though they are navigating challenges without proper guidance. Some individuals embrace traditional coping methods, while others reject them entirely. These individuals will feel more isolated than before. Stress inoculation emerges as a method that helps acknowledge the varied experiences and provides structured support for genuine resilience. This approach works similarly to a medical vaccination. The process introduces manageable doses of stress within a controlled environment. The result is that individuals will develop stronger responses to future challenges. Individuals who participate in this approach will learn how to engage with adversity in healthy ways rather than avoid difficult situations. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. – Philippians 4:13, ESV Understanding Stress Inoculation Fundamentals The foundation of stress inoculation rests on the knowledge that avoiding stress entirely is not possible. This stress management approach helps the individual work through a systematic process to build up psychological immunity against challenging situations. This framework draws parallels between physical immunity and mental resilience. There are three phases to this process that work together to create a lasting change. Beginning with the education phase, the individual learns how to understand the effect of stress on their mind and body. They [...]

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Fighting Negative Body Image

Fighting Negative Body Image

Ashlynn Barnette, Kate Motaung2025-12-20T06:39:45+00:00December 22nd, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Women’s Issues|

Perfect bodies. Perfect hair. Perfect clothing. Everywhere we look, we see society’s ideals of beauty and health. Yet, these ideals are unrealistic. Often, images are edited, filtered, touched up, or created by AI. But the outcome can leave us feeling inadequate and unattractive. Negative body image results in low self-esteem, poor self-confidence, and a dislike of the body and appearance. We stop taking opportunities because of self-consciousness. However, you can learn to fight negative body image and boost body positivity. What is negative body image? Negative body image is how you perceive yourself, often comparing yourself to others or society’s ideals, or listening to judgmental voices of other people. Negative body image can have a major impact on a person’s mental health. It can trigger anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and a loss of confidence. People with a negative body image may also find it difficult to maintain relationships, especially intimate ones. They may form toxic relationships or distance themselves from their spouse because they feel uncomfortable. Negative body image also contributes to extreme behavior, such as looking at oneself in the mirror excessively and having extreme or numerous cosmetic surgeries to attain a particular look. Even after all of these changes, an individual with negative body image may still feel unattractive. Overcoming negative body image requires acknowledging that there may be something missing, some deeper reason behind the thoughts and fears. Boost positive body image To overcome negative body image, we need to boost positive body image. A positive body image appreciates the body that you have, right now. It acknowledges the body’s capabilities and usefulness. It also makes us more aware of who we are aside from our appearance. When you appreciate your body for where it is now, you feel a sense of confidence and worth. You [...]

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Social Media and Body Image: When Filters Distort Reality

Social Media and Body Image: When Filters Distort Reality

Sarah Harris, Kate Motaung2025-12-04T07:22:38+00:00December 4th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Chances are that you’ve done this or are doing it right now: scrolling. You’re just checking your feed, right? No big deal. But before long, you begin to feel it. That little ache in your chest, or the pit of your stomach, and the faint whisper in your ear that says that you’re not as attractive or accomplished as those images on the tiny screen. You’re certainly not thin enough after that hearty breakfast. You’re obviously not strong enough because you succumbed to checking out “his” social media again. You must not be attractive enough since all those in your social circle seem to be finding love, and you’re not. Social media often tells you that you’re not enough in some measurable way. Social media is supposed to connect us, hence the inclusion of the word “social” in the name. And sometimes it does exactly what it is supposed to do. It brings joy, celebration, and builds community. But for many, especially women and young people, it also provides a critical mirror that distorts reality. It becomes a filter for lies and a highlight reel that confidently celebrates everyone else’s wins and quietly chips away at your self-esteem. When life is going great, you might enjoy consuming a few images from influencers, fitness gurus, or even peeking into the lives of your most accomplished and polished friends. And there might not be any harm in doing that occasionally. But there are times when social media can become toxic to consume. Somewhere between the endless reels and the perfectly posed selfies, your brain starts comparing. And comparison, as has been said, is the thief of joy, but it is also the thief of identity. You were never meant to find your identity in the confusing halls of the internet or to [...]

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Help for Single Moms: Ways to Find Support

Help for Single Moms: Ways to Find Support

D. Nicole Ready, Kate Motaung2026-03-27T10:13:00+00:00November 25th, 2025|Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Women’s Issues|

Being a parent brings many ups and downs. Children can bring loads of joy, but they also come with their fair share of strain and hardship. The cost of raising a child to adulthood in the United States was approximately $267,233 in 2021, according to a report by US News and World. Paid maternity leave, subsidized health and childcare, and universal preschool can help if you have access, but, regardless, raising children can cause incredible financial pressure to parents. How much more of a strain can it be if you are a single parent! Single moms face not only financial challenges, but also other unique difficulties. Besides being exciting and life-altering, motherhood also gives self-doubt, sleepless nights, and endless worries. Motherhood requires a great amount of patience and selflessness, and let’s be honest, every mother needs help along the way. The more support you have, the better. Whether you are a single mom who is looking for ways to flourish or you are someone seeking to be helpful to a single mom, this article is for you. We all need support from others to live our best lives, and in this, single moms are no different. If You Know a Single Mom If you have a single mama in your world, there are several things that you can do to help lighten her load. Some of these will take some emotional and financial investment, while others will require that you simply give of your time and thoughtfulness. Don’t require a backstory before you decide to help out The journey to someone being a single mom doesn’t look the same for everyone, and there are many reasons why someone may be a single mom. Whatever path has led her to being a single mom, you don’t need to know the [...]

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6 Tips for Long-Distance Dating

6 Tips for Long-Distance Dating

Melissa Plantz2025-10-27T12:45:33+00:00October 29th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Personal Development, Relationship Issues|

Whether your boyfriend or girlfriend lives far away, is stationed in another state, deployed overseas, or working elsewhere, you can keep the fire alive in your relationship with a few long-distance dating tips. 6 Tips for Long-Distance Dating You can maintain a strong relationship even when you’re separated. It takes effort, considering the other person’s needs and respecting their boundaries. It also takes a level of trust. Long-term, long-distance dating can be more challenging, and you may want to consider seeking help from a counselor. For example, a couple separated by one taking a new job in another state may have an easier time over the next four months before the wedding compared to the couple separated by a year-long deployment overseas. The following is a list of several tips for long-distance dating. Communicate Often Communication lines must stay open and honest. Let your other half know you are thinking of them with calls, video chats, and memes. A little text in the middle of the day, letting them know they’re on your mind, can bring you closer. With today’s technology, seeing each other face-to-face virtually can make the distance seem shorter. Ask Questions When you speak to your significant other, ask questions and actively listen to their responses. Don’t get so caught up in what you want to say that you miss the details. People build trust and confidence with others when they believe that the person is taking a genuine interest in them. Do Something Together Virtually Engage in activities you can share virtually. For example, stream a movie at the same time, cook dinner while video chatting, or play a game online. Think of ways the two of you can share an experience. How about a virtual tour of a historical place? You can discuss what [...]

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Is Counseling a Safe Space to Bare All My Secrets?

Is Counseling a Safe Space to Bare All My Secrets?

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2025-10-22T06:29:59+00:00October 22nd, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Personal Development|

In this day and age, with so many innovations, like virtual counseling, on the rise, many question if the joy of opening up in counseling is still safe and intact. We are all justified in wondering whether new methods like online therapy still provide that trusted sanctuary of face-to-face talk, where vulnerabilities are met with empathy and expertise. Now, let’s get into what makes today’s counseling climate challenging and reassuring at the same time for many people who share these questions. Why Traditional Counseling Was Always a Safe Space Traditional counseling has always been loved and respected because of its unique promise of an environment of trust and confidentiality. Counselors proudly adhered to strict ethical guidelines to keep your privacy intact while creating a therapeutic environment. It created a neutral zone, which allowed you to explore your feelings without fear of exposure. With increased knowledge related to the physiology of mental health over the years, this insight has helped clients gain immensely by making counseling an emotionally secure experience for all parties involved. Attachment dynamics and the traditional counselors’ grasp of how the mind and body connect and interlink helped this field grow and gain a reputation for being essential to overall well-being. If you speak to people who have received counseling throughout their lives, they will be quick to share the great joy and relief counseling has brought them. They loved that sense of solace in a space where active listening, empathy, and reflection thrived. They often laud the capacity they gained to lift burdens off their shoulders and make life’s challenges manageable. With this in mind, it is quite natural for some to wonder why, then the mental health fraternity has reinvented the wheel and incorporated new technologies into counseling. How Counseling Has Changed in the Digital [...]

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Social Media and Body Image: Back to School Edition

Social Media and Body Image: Back to School Edition

Melissa Plantz2025-09-08T06:24:27+00:00September 8th, 2025|Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Back to school is a time when many families are ready for a fresh start. There is so much hope for the future, excitement, and maybe a little bit of anxiety. But for some children, their body image impacts how they will interact with others and pursue their goals. How we perceive our bodies affects how we behave and the beliefs that we hold onto. Social media and body image play critical roles in how a child views themselves. The Effects of Social Media and Body Image on Kids The effects of social media and body image on children can last a lifetime. Children, as young as grade school, begin to notice society’s ideal image of what someone should look like to be pretty, handsome, cool, or successful. They start their quest to fulfill what they believe everyone wants. Comparison Children who spend time on social media may begin to compare their own bodies to those of their peers and celebrities, not understanding how unrealistic many of these images are after being airbrushed and filtered. Body Dysmorphia Body dysmorphia is an excessive worry about how one looks. It is an obsession with perceived flaws. This obsession can interfere with a child’s daily activities and socialization. Eating Disorders Eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia, are fatal if left untreated. They cause severe physical illness. Binge eating is another eating disorder that can develop in some children, especially if they use food as a coping mechanism. Increased Risk for Depression and Anxiety Too much time scrolling social media and worrying about body image can increase depression and anxiety in both adults and children. Parents and educators should stay informed about social media and body image, and be willing to celebrate each child’s uniqueness until that child embraces a positive [...]

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