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Help for Single Moms: Ways to Find Support

Help for Single Moms: Ways to Find Support

D. Nicole Ready, Kate Motaung2026-03-27T10:13:00+00:00November 25th, 2025|Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Women’s Issues|

Being a parent brings many ups and downs. Children can bring loads of joy, but they also come with their fair share of strain and hardship. The cost of raising a child to adulthood in the United States was approximately $267,233 in 2021, according to a report by US News and World. Paid maternity leave, subsidized health and childcare, and universal preschool can help if you have access, but, regardless, raising children can cause incredible financial pressure to parents. How much more of a strain can it be if you are a single parent! Single moms face not only financial challenges, but also other unique difficulties. Besides being exciting and life-altering, motherhood also gives self-doubt, sleepless nights, and endless worries. Motherhood requires a great amount of patience and selflessness, and let’s be honest, every mother needs help along the way. The more support you have, the better. Whether you are a single mom who is looking for ways to flourish or you are someone seeking to be helpful to a single mom, this article is for you. We all need support from others to live our best lives, and in this, single moms are no different. If You Know a Single Mom If you have a single mama in your world, there are several things that you can do to help lighten her load. Some of these will take some emotional and financial investment, while others will require that you simply give of your time and thoughtfulness. Don’t require a backstory before you decide to help out The journey to someone being a single mom doesn’t look the same for everyone, and there are many reasons why someone may be a single mom. Whatever path has led her to being a single mom, you don’t need to know the [...]

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Is Counseling a Safe Space to Bare All My Secrets?

Is Counseling a Safe Space to Bare All My Secrets?

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2025-10-22T06:29:59+00:00October 22nd, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Personal Development|

In this day and age, with so many innovations, like virtual counseling, on the rise, many question if the joy of opening up in counseling is still safe and intact. We are all justified in wondering whether new methods like online therapy still provide that trusted sanctuary of face-to-face talk, where vulnerabilities are met with empathy and expertise. Now, let’s get into what makes today’s counseling climate challenging and reassuring at the same time for many people who share these questions. Why Traditional Counseling Was Always a Safe Space Traditional counseling has always been loved and respected because of its unique promise of an environment of trust and confidentiality. Counselors proudly adhered to strict ethical guidelines to keep your privacy intact while creating a therapeutic environment. It created a neutral zone, which allowed you to explore your feelings without fear of exposure. With increased knowledge related to the physiology of mental health over the years, this insight has helped clients gain immensely by making counseling an emotionally secure experience for all parties involved. Attachment dynamics and the traditional counselors’ grasp of how the mind and body connect and interlink helped this field grow and gain a reputation for being essential to overall well-being. If you speak to people who have received counseling throughout their lives, they will be quick to share the great joy and relief counseling has brought them. They loved that sense of solace in a space where active listening, empathy, and reflection thrived. They often laud the capacity they gained to lift burdens off their shoulders and make life’s challenges manageable. With this in mind, it is quite natural for some to wonder why, then the mental health fraternity has reinvented the wheel and incorporated new technologies into counseling. How Counseling Has Changed in the Digital [...]

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Are You in a Codependent Relationship? Signs of Codependency to Look Out for

Are You in a Codependent Relationship? Signs of Codependency to Look Out for

Kate Motaung2026-06-04T20:35:13+00:00October 21st, 2025|Codependency, Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Picture the scene: two fish swimming in a lake. The one fish turns to the other and asks, “Hey, what’s water?” From the perspective of everyone who’s not those fish, it’s obvious what water is. However, it’s possible to be so immersed in your perspective, experiences, or surroundings that you struggle even to question or notice the things that could seem obvious to others. Our relationships are one area where we might miss the obvious. When you’re accustomed to your relationships operating in a certain way, you may become blind to the ways they are unhealthy. Just like the fish in water that doesn’t even know that it’s in water, you might be in an unhealthy and codependent relationship without being fully aware of the fact. Knowing the signs of codependency can help you identify these patterns and address them. Codependency – What is it? You may have heard the term "codependent" before, and perhaps you puzzled over its meaning. It’s been said that “no person is an island”, and we all depend on each other to one degree. Surely, depending on others, and being aware of that dependence, isn’t a bad thing? True, mutual dependence is a fact of life, and a beautiful one at that. We need community, and our communities need us. We are more fully human when we’re in relationship with others. However, there is a world of difference between mutual dependence, which is the fabric of our society, and codependence. Mutual dependence involves people who are bringing what they have to share with others to meet the needs of others that they can’t fulfil themselves, whether due to capacity or something else. A mechanic and a butcher can depend on each other for things they may not have the time, capacity, or skill to do [...]

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How to Tell If You’re Engaging in Emotional Eating

How to Tell If You’re Engaging in Emotional Eating

Sarah Harris, Kate Motaung2025-10-17T06:31:17+00:00October 17th, 2025|Eating Disorders, Featured, Individual Counseling|

How do you know if you’re doing too much of a thing? One possibility is in what the apostle wrote: “‘I have the right to do anything,’ you say – but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’ – but I will not be mastered by anything.” (1 Corinthians 6:12-13, NIV). Not everything we can do is beneficial to us, and even when we have the right to do something, when that thing becomes our master instead of our servant, something needs to change. There’s a sense in which we live at an amazing time when it comes to food. You can drive to a grocery store and get spices, fruit, grains, drinks, vegetables, and proteins from across the world, something that people set sail on long voyages for in previous centuries. There’s a glut of cooking shows, tutorials, and masterclasses available to motivate and help you prepare tasty food. All this notwithstanding, our relationship with food can be complex and messy. Food is often a major area of inequality, as some are calorie-deficient while others have a surplus. Food can also play a role that goes beyond sustenance. It can become a source of comfort and a way to deal with difficult emotions and situations. Emotional eating is a struggle that many have, and it can be quite damaging to your well-being. The Deep Connection Between Food and Our Feelings Food isn’t something that just sustains our bodies. We form bonds of fellowship over meals or drinks, and these relationships can last a lifetime. For many, some of their fondest memories are connected with food in one way or another. It could be a gathering like Thanksgiving dinner, a first date, cherished childhood memories at a particular sweet or dessert place, and so on. Food [...]

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Bible Verses About Worry: Finding Support from Scripture When You’re Feeling Anxious

Bible Verses About Worry: Finding Support from Scripture When You’re Feeling Anxious

Ashlynn Barnette, Kate Motaung2026-03-25T12:54:21+00:00October 16th, 2025|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

Worry and anxiety have always been a part of the human condition. They were one of the first things Jesus addressed in his Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 6:25-34). Paul and other New Testament writers referenced worry and anxiety throughout the epistles (Philippians 4:6-7, 1 Peter 5:7). Anxiety disorders have become extremely prevalent. Whether it is that diagnoses are becoming more common, the ever-present 24-hour news cycle, constant social media updates, doomscrolling, or other factors, anxiety is flourishing in today’s culture. In 2019, about 15% of U.S. adults reported having anxiety issues. By 2022, that number had risen to 18% (U.S. News & World Report). In 2024, 43% of Americans said they had higher anxiety than the year before. No matter the cause, it’s clear that anxiety rates are continuing to rise, and people are becoming more self-aware of their struggles. As Christians, we may wonder – what does the Bible say about worry? Does it address the human condition of anxiety? Some people say that worry is a sin, and this can make someone who struggles with chronic worrying, panic, or fear feel even more defeated than before. The truth is, it is possible for worry to be sinful. Sometimes worry signifies a lack of trust in God. Are we doubting His goodness? Do we have a lack of confidence in His faithfulness? Are we worrying because we feel that the cares of the world are on our shoulders instead of His? Do we struggle with unbelief? It’s important to remember, though, that pain, fear, worry, and anxiety are not just sins – they are part of our broken human condition because of the fall. At the same time, brokenness does not always equate to sin. Just think of the many ways our physical bodies can be broken [...]

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How to Make Friends If You Have Social Anxiety

How to Make Friends If You Have Social Anxiety

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2026-03-25T12:57:32+00:00September 24th, 2025|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Most people crave friendships. Even the most introverted among us has a certain degree of God given desire for social connection. God made us social creatures for a reason. He created Eve when He recognized Adam’s social need. God brought us back into fellowship with Him when He saw the sin-induced divide. So, having people in your life is important and necessary for fellowship, mission work, and overall life satisfaction. If you’re craving relationships, there are a lot of ways to find those social connections, even if you’re socially awkward or suffer from social anxiety. Even if you have a shy personality or have been criticized publicly. Even if toxic friendships have made you afraid to trust others again. And even if you’re at a stage in your life where you are physically unable to socialize in the ways you always have. Tips for Overcoming Social Anxiety Whatever the reason for your isolation, it can be difficult to reach out to others when your insides are a jumbled-up mess of nerves, doubt, fear, hurt, and self-doubt. But there is hope. You can overcome those obstacles that prevent authentic connections and live a whole, fulfilling social life. You can be a part of a dynamic duo or be a main character in a friend group. You can find people who will support you in your endeavors and cry with you in your defeats. But first, you might have to put in a little work to overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of those authentic and meaningful connections. Get therapy Therapy can help you not only understand but also untangle the things that are standing in the way of quality relationships in your life. Sometimes what you need is someone trained to walk with you through the fear, trauma, and [...]

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Finding Support to Help Troubled Teens in Texas

Finding Support to Help Troubled Teens in Texas

Kate Motaung2026-06-04T20:35:34+00:00September 24th, 2025|Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

If you’re raising or taking care of a teen, one of the fears that you may have is that your teen will become a statistic. Usually, that’s meant negatively, whether it’s numbering among teens who drop out of school, teens who get involved with sex or drugs, or teens who turn to crime. The specter of these possible futures frightens parents and caregivers, and it can lead to dysfunctional parenting. The reality is that some teens do find themselves in trouble. A parent or caregiver’s responsibility is to steward this young life, this precious gift from the Lord, and to try to nurture them and set them on the path they should pursue. Part of discharging this responsibility is setting healthy patterns in place, as well as being able to identify when a child is in trouble and needs support. It’s important to know how to deal with your teen, and that includes knowing how to meaningfully support them when they are a troubled teen. What is a troubled teen? The term “troubled teen” is not a clinical term by any means, and it can conjure a variety of images that may be inspired by popular culture. A troubled teen can come in different guises, which means a parent or caregiver needs to be alert and discerning. It can be easy to miss the signs of trouble if you’re looking in the wrong places. The adolescent years mark a deeply transformative and impactful stage of life, characterized by significant emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual growth. They are becoming the people they will likely be for the rest of their lives. That’s huge, and as you can imagine, for some teens, these vast changes can be overwhelming. These changes, or other life experiences, may lead to them becoming what’s known [...]

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Raising Kids: Parenting Tips for When You Feel Overwhelmed

Raising Kids: Parenting Tips for When You Feel Overwhelmed

Sarah Harris, Kate Motaung2025-09-05T07:08:33+00:00September 5th, 2025|Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

When you encounter verses such as Psalm 127:3, you might feel a mixture of emotions. The verse reads, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3, NIV). One thing a parent might feel is a deep sense of responsibility for their children, perhaps accompanied by gratitude to the Lord for the gift of a child. These emotions can be empowering, but they can also make parents feel overwhelmed due to their gravity. If you take your parenting seriously and your faith and walk with the Lord seriously, it leads to the conclusion that one’s children are a gift over which to exercise wise stewardship. They belong to the Lord, and like all His gifts, we are to handle them carefully. Parenting in the 21st century can be a complex and overwhelming experience. We all need help with handling this vital role. Reasons Parents Feel Overwhelmed Raising a child is a task and responsibility that takes every ounce of energy, and it requires perseverance and ingenuity to accomplish. There are many reasons why a parent or caregiver might feel overwhelmed. Depending on the reason, there are different approaches to take to relieve the sense of pressure and to walk with a greater sense of freedom and joy in your parenting. You may feel overwhelmed because you have too much to do. Many parents can attest to this. Whether you’re a single parent, co-parenting, or in a relationship, you might be stretched thin because there’s just too much to do and you can’t get to it all. You have work, daily chores, school runs, you need to stay fit and socialize, and a thousand little fires that need putting out in a given day. A parent may feel overwhelmed because their child has needs that [...]

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I’ve Been Diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. Now What Do I Do?

I’ve Been Diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. Now What Do I Do?

Kate Motaung2026-06-04T20:35:57+00:00August 22nd, 2025|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling|

You are sitting and waiting for the professional to speak. Then words come from the professional’s mouth, “ Based on the symptoms you are experiencing and for the time you have been experiencing them, I am going to diagnose you with Major Depression.” In that moment, you experience a multitude of possible thoughts and feelings. Thoughts of “This can’t be real”, or “Thank goodness I finally know what I have been experiencing,” or maybe even “I am a Christian. Christians can’t be depressed. I must be sinning.” Many feelings follow these thoughts; however, each one of these thoughts leads to one question. “I have been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. Now what do I do ?” An Overview of Major Depressive Disorder Major Depressive Disorder, MDD, or Clinical Depression is more than just feeling sad. It is a prolonged group of symptoms lasting more than two weeks that greatly impacts daily life. Simple activities such as getting out of bed, texting a loved one, eating, or keeping up with daily hygiene begin to feel like insurmountable mountains of tasks to complete daily. Many describe MDD as feeling like carrying around a massive weight or a dark cloud that seems to follow them around. Those who have been diagnosed with MDD can experience any or all of the following symptoms. Loss of interest or pleasure The clinical name of the loss of interest or pleasure in life is called anhedonia. Hobbies, being social, going on trips, working toward goals, dreams, and ambition no longer seem appealing or even possible when a person is experiencing anhedonia. Sad and hopeless mood Emotional experiences for those diagnosed with MDD tend to fall on the two extremes of the spectrum. Emotions like sadness, hopelessness, and anger become intense. Or the opposite is also true, [...]

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Signs of Social Anxiety to Look Out for in a Loved One

Signs of Social Anxiety to Look Out for in a Loved One

McCartney Paul, Kate Motaung2025-08-14T06:54:37+00:00August 14th, 2025|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling|

More than anything, we want our loved ones to be happy. As well-placed as this intention can be, one challenge that can come up is that our definition of “happiness” and our loved one’s definition of happiness might not always align perfectly. This can be a source of conflict as two people who love each other try to navigate life together. Knowing your loved one’s struggles can put you in a position where you can stand in the gap for them, supporting them as they need it. With social anxiety, it’s important to know the signs of it, as well as how best to support your loved one if they are socially anxious. Just as there are helpful ways to be present and supportive, there are also unhelpful ones, and knowing the difference matters. The Signs of Social Anxiety People have feelings of anxiety in a variety of circumstances. Some people thrive in a setting with lots of people, engaging in conversation with strangers, or talking through ideas in a public forum like a meeting or classroom. For other people, these things are dreadful, in the literal sense. It takes enormous amounts of energy to be in those kinds of spaces, and once there, it’s a matter of hanging on until it’s all over. A person’s anxiety in social settings can become so severe that it begins to interfere with their daily functioning. At that point, it could be diagnosed as a social anxiety disorder by a mental health professional. Social anxiety disorder can make life – whether that’s hanging out with loved ones, going to work, doing your grocery shopping, or going to the doctor – hard. Anxiety has tell-tale signs, as it affects you physically, mentally, and emotionally. If your loved one has social anxiety, you may [...]

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